A little appreciation

was speaking to a friend today and he shared with me how hard it was to get a girl to like him. He is nice, and he isn't repulsive. The chillax kind who would do things slowly, taking his time not to make mistakes. But then after confessing and being nice for many years she still doesn't wna commit. Made me think how hard it is for him, now that his love is very much one sided. 

And also this made me reflect on my own relationship. We both very much wanted to settle down and the hard part was- well, we all know, external objection based on personal preferences. Looking back on the two years made me see how much I've grown, from regressing into a shell and coming out (now). Exploring my boundaries and creating my own identity. I'm thankful that I don't need to question whether I'm loved in return. I'm thankful I have a bb where I can be myself, my stupid dumb dumb self, sit brazenly on the chair and not worry about being judged. A casual "are you surprised at my stance" would occasionally come from me, but it would end up in sheepish laughter, followed by a "yes but it's very you". 

You know how people say "wait till you've seen them without makeup the morning after" and how looks are deceiving. But that doesn't apply to either of us, so I'm thankful too. Looks come and go and it doesn't really count for anything much. A statue can look pretty for me but what use is it? 

Ultimately, what you want isn't a pretty face. You want a sidekick, a partner for life. 

So for my friend, I hope she comes to believe. Praying for both of you. (;